Friday, March 20, 2009

Arguing with the Sofa ...


There is an old expression I heard that states … “from a distance, when a man and a fool argue it is hard to tell who is who.”  Christ had a similar thought when He made the statement that we should avoid … “casting our pearls before swine.”  Often we pervert the meaning of Christ’s statement into avoiding having conversations about the gospel with those who are reluctant to hear it, or worse those who question it.  But there is a decided difference between inquiring minds, and arguing with the sofa.

Congressman Barney Frank had an encounter this past week with a woman ascribing Nazism to President O’Bama.  Rep. Frank recognized that having a conversation with her would be like talking with a piece of furniture and he would have no part of it.  So how does a relatively young, average looking, seemingly intelligent woman transcend from an inquiring mind into a dining room table?  More to the point, when looking in the mirror, am I the fool, or the man trying to reason with him?

The biggest problem we all seem to share is our absolute faith that our positions and beliefs on any topic are the “right” ones.  We are predisposed to believe we are right before we enter a conversation, before we pick up scripture to read it, or even before we hit our knees to ask for assistance.  It rarely enters our minds that we may in fact be completely wrong about what we think or believe.  That perhaps we are praying so devoutly for the very thing that would destroy us completely if God granted our request.  We seem to never pause long enough to consider.  Instead we prefer small sound bites from which we can form quick opinions.  Debate is not thought of as enriching or improving a topic, it is thought of as only a tool to demonstrate our intellectual prowess.

In short, we are right, about everything, just ask us and we will tell you.  But logically, and though it may be very hard to admit it down deep in our soul, we know this simply cannot be true.  There is too much error in our history.  There are too many mistakes along our pathway for us to have always been 100% correct about everything.  This means though, that people face this fact and with it face a choice: to become rational introspective thinking individuals who allow for facts to alter their perceptions; or to cling blindly to what we espouse whether we truly believe it or not and therefore adopt all the characteristics of a sofa.

Almost gone from the American vernacular are the words … I was wrong.  It used to be the mark of a man was his ability to learn from his mistakes.  In order for this to occur he would have to acknowledge that he made a mistake in the first place.  It used to be that apologizing was considered an honorable action.  A trait of nobility, of gallantry, was the simple act of apologizing for his misdeeds, or mis-spoken words that cause pain.  Now it seems to be viewed only as an act of humility, with no societal redeeming value at all.  George W. Bush was indeed the leader of this trend, but far from its only participant.

We like being right.  We like being proven to be right even better.  We love it when our nemesis is forced to acknowledge that we were right and they were wrong.  But our nemesis seems never to find the words to admit this, and frankly neither do we.  It is our pride that we nourish in the praises of being right.  It is only our ego that is served when feeling vindicated.  It is seldom the pure beauty of truth that we bath in when found to be right, rather we attempt to attribute truth to ourselves as if our knowledge of truth somehow makes us part of the truth.

So what is the difference between certainty of truth, and blind ignorance – sometimes … not much.  The problem is not with truth.  It is with us.  It is our need to believe we know truth in the absolute.  Rather than be willing to learn and expand our minds by engaging truth as a learning method, we treat truth as if it were an absolute that we alone can quantify and explain.  The truth does not change.  But in our arrogance we assert that we know ALL there is to know, that nothing else remains to be learned, and just like the sofa, we learn nothing. 

If we could approach differences with others without considering ourselves absolute authorities on any subject, we could begin to recognize our potential to expand our knowledge of truth.  Even during a conflict when we believe firmly that our premise is correct, it is still possible to expand our knowledge of truth through discourse and dissent with someone else.  Listening to another person’s argument, wading through its logical conclusions, comparing it to what you believe is true will either strengthen your position or if you are willing, allow you to alter it.  So much of what we think is truth is really not.  It is “human wisdom” masquerading as truth.  Often our God must help us to unlearn what we have learned and reexamine a subject from a new spiritual perspective to truly understand it.  In this, it is critical that we are willing to be taught.

The role of the shepherd is to lead the sheep.  It is our God that leads us to discover His truths.  When the sheep runs off on its own, believing the adventure will lead to new knowledge, they almost always find themselves in life threatening peril.  The patient shepherd must then leave the flock to seek after the sheep who wandered away and was lost, to bring them back into the fold.  The sheep never seems to find their way back on their own.  It takes a shepherd to lead them, often to carry them back.  Inquiring minds are a gift from God.  Learning and increasing our knowledge about truth through questions and experience is essential to our existence.  But understand that real truth is what we are led to find, not what we invent for ourselves.  When following our God we learn much, when we step out in front of Him, we wander off into the abyss.

It may not be possible to convince the sofa of anything.  You can beat on it, but you only risk breaking it.  When someone else refuses to even talk about truth, or to even acknowledge the existence of truth, it may be that all that is left to you is to pray for them and yourself.  Sometimes it takes a shepherd to illuminate the mind of a stubborn sheep, sometimes only He can reach the places we cannot find. 

For my part, when the young woman who confronted Barney Frank took the microphone, she had pictures of the President doctored to look like Hitler.  She compared the effort to reform Health Care to that of installing Nazi doctrines in prewar Germany.  My first response to this assertion is to look at where she might be getting this information.  Who is the source of this thinking?  What do they have to gain by it?  What is it’s logical conclusion?  What is she advocating instead of what she does not like?  What does she want?  Does she believe what she is saying?  Something about her looked to me as if when hearing Frank’s responses and the crowd’s approval she was embarrassed by her own behavior.  She did not look like a true-believer to me, she looked like a somewhat unwilling pundit, taking up someone else’s talking points.

How problematic is pride to our happiness?  Let me answer it this way, it is only pride that prevents Lucifer from repenting for all that he has done and ending this conflict entirely differently.  The constant nurturing of his pride has left him unable to repent.  It is a foreign concept to him now, as would be his learning anything more about truth.  His only interest now is in poisoning truth.  What pride has corrupted in him, is working its process in us when we nourish it.  Let us then nurture humility rather than pride.  Let us become teachable even by those we believe have nothing new to offer.  Let us believe in our truth, but always look to enrich it, by being led into deeper and more truth by our tender God.  Let us not compromise our morals nor allow the underlying principle of love to be lost in the application of any one of them.  The more we submit to God, the more we allow Him to take self out of our equation; the more truth we will be led to discover.


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