It is a mystery to me why God loves me. He has plenty of reason not to. I have done nothing to earn His love, and way
too much to have caused His heart to harden where I am concerned. But evidence of His love comes my way each
and every day. One piece of that
evidence is the love my wife has for me.
And another mystery is born. My
wife may have a few reasons to love me, but plenty more not to, if she
chose. If reasons for her to love or not-to-love
me were placed on a scale, the needle would point to the not-to-love side like
measuring brick against a feather. But
love remains. Love persists. Forgiveness abounds. These evidences mirror the heart of God and I
recognize His touch in the heart of my wife.
Neither of us are perfect, but the touch of God in the human heart,
creates love, abounding forgiving love, where none might otherwise even exist. Then there are my children. And the love multiplies. My parents, love expounds again. I am beyond lucky. I am loved.
Through my eyes it is with an impossible love.
Where I don’t look for love in the eyes, words, or deeds of
my enemies. It is likely you feel the
same. Human nature would have us look to
tend what love we experience in the families we cultivate. Human nature would have us not even try to
spark love in our enemies, because it is an impossible task. It does not even matter if we are able to
love them. It just always seems it would
be impossible for them to love us. Thus
the word enemy. And enemies do things,
say things, that are meant to hurt us.
Or perhaps at best with a total disregard for how it will affect us. How we respond to our enemies does more to
define us than it does to define them.
For it is our hearts that will suffer the burden of anger, resentment,
holding of grudges. It is our hearts
burdened down with the baggage of these things, while our enemies seem free to
continue going about their daily routines without so much as a single after
thought for what they have done to us, or done in spite of us. Therefore natural to look for love from
family and perhaps even friends.
Decidedly unnatural to look for it in enemies who refuse to love us no matter
what we do.
But Christians carry another burden. We are supposed to love our enemies. Even the worst of them. This would seem an impossible task for a
human. It is. So how do we get it done anyway? When tragedy strikes us, it is seldom our
first thought – Gee, I wonder how this will impact our enemies, I hope they are
OK. No, when tragedy strikes, we lament
over how it will impact us, then our families, then our wider community. We figure our enemies will rejoice in our
tragedy. The same is somewhat true when
providential blessings come our way. Our
first thought is rarely – Gee, I wonder if I could share some of this blessing,
or perhaps give all of it, to my enemy.
No, more likely, we first think of what we will use this blessing on for
ourselves, then our families, then our communities. We figure our blessing has nothing to do with
our enemies, and they would lament seeing us be blessed. To change how we think is required. To change how we love is required. It is a total re-wiring of our brains to go
where we have seldom gone before without kicking and screaming along the
way. We must learn to love
differently. More passionately, but
also, we must learn to love impossibly.
The only love capable of that now is God’s love. So we must learn to plug our hearts into that
and let it take full control over us.
Luke writes about this weird obsession with love in his
gospel letter to his friend. This letter
was meant to establish beliefs as you will recall, to provide evidence as to
why we Christians believe as we do. After
all the ideas of family and enemies have been around since our first parents
were cast out of Eden. Family before
sin. Enemies after it. Luke picks up in chapter six, as he continues
relaying one of the greatest sermons ever preached on practical Christianity by
Jesus Christ Himself. He begins in verse
27 saying … “But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them
which hate you,” There it is. Jesus flips our ideas about who we should
love on their head. You will note this
first commandment does not ask us “not” to love anyone, but instead it asks us
to expand our notion of love, to include everyone. And note too, enemies here is not used
passively. Like the enemies who steal a
promotion from us at work, or politicians who do the environment wrong and ruin
the earth we all share. This use of the
word enemy goes beyond that to someone who actually hates us. We are to “do good” to them in spite of how
they feel and what they do. That is a
tall order. The tall order God fulfills
every day.
Jesus continues in verse 28 saying … “Bless them that curse
you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.” It is rare to see a fight where one person
unloads a series of swearing insults, and the other says only – I would like to
bless you in the name of Jesus Christ, asking Him for only the best of life for
you in all things. When the politician
appears on the news, the conversations that make you angry, should first make
you want to pray, dropping right then to your knees to ask God not to “change”
them and their sinful ways, but instead to shower His blessings upon them and
bless them, their families, and our nation with an outpouring of His love,
tangibly through you if you can go that far.
That sounds impossible. It
is. How do I make Donald Trump or Bill
Clinton the first object of my prayers for blessing on them, instead of me? How do I think of insuring Gods love for
them, ahead of myself or my family? That
they should appear first in my prayers sounds just crazy. But is it?
Is it so crazy to put others ahead of yourself in your prayers for
blessing? And is it so crazy to pray for
blessings upon your enemies, even to go so far as the enemies of our nation
like Saddam Hussein and Osama Bin Laden, the latter responsible for so many
murders against us. They top the hate
posters. Can we dare to take the hate
poster down, and make future enemies the top of our prayer list for
blessings? That sounds impossible. It is.
But Jesus asks it anyway.
Jesus continues in verse 29 saying … “And unto him that
smiteth thee on the one cheek offer also the other; and him that taketh away
thy cloke forbid not to take thy coat also.”
And here is where violence is intended to go extinct. Not in the hearts of others. But in your heart. Here is where your “need” for a gun to
protect yourselves and your family is no longer a “need”, but a burden you were
not meant to carry. Here is where your
life is defined by your ability to absorb violence done to you without trying
to return it, but instead offering only gentle love in response. Did you ever wondered why the Christians did
not fight in the Roman arenas? They just
died there. Usually singing hymns thus
infuriating the emperors who came to see fear and terror in the dying. They were like sheep. They did not resist. They did not form militias. They did not form armies. Those followers of Jesus were raped,
tortured, and killed. And their faith
did not break or turn to violence to defend themselves. They gave up their bodies and their lives and
remained true to Jesus Christ, all the while praying for their enemies, and the
courage to remain faithful in spite of the martyrdom they were experiencing firsthand. Do we just call them crazy and buy that Glock
9 to insure that could never happen to us again? That kind of love and faith sounds
impossible. It is. But somehow, they were locked in on it. We could be too.
Jesus continues in verse 30 saying … “Give to every man that
asketh of thee; and of him that taketh away thy goods ask them not again.” Here is where your money becomes nothing more
than a tool to do good to others. You
are to give to ANY who asks. NOT as a
loan, but as a gift you never expect to see again. When my children call me with a need, it is
easy for me to drop everything and find a way to help them. We could examine the reasons I do that on a psychiatrist’s
couch for years to come and never reach a conclusion. But they are family. They are easy. When I see the homeless man on the street,
and I give them a dollar. That one is
easier to understand. I give something,
so I do not have to give everything. But
in truth, I do not meet his need, I pacify it.
Or better stated I pacify only myself.
It is not what Jesus asks of me.
And while I give to the church, who in turn has ministries for those in
need, it is still only the giving of my funds, not of my heart, or of my
time. The precious time I have, I choose
to keep, gladly willing to throw dollars at a problem to ever avoid the
challenge of the request of my time, or my heart. As a banker, giving money away seems
unnatural to me. But Jesus asks way more
from me, than my ability to go beyond what is natural, He is looking to totally
convert my heart and thoughts. Will I
let Him?
Jesus continues in verse 31 with what we call the golden
rule saying … “And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them
likewise.” But we have twisted the gold
in this “rule” to use it as a means to return to men what they have done to us
in like manner back to them. Still others
go farther saying do unto others; then split.
To give first, to love first, to persist in a love despite bad action in
return, is for most of us just impossible.
So seeing the impossible done, gives evidence that God’s love is alive
in the heart willing to love in this way.
Thus when I see God’s forgiveness in the heart of my wife for me, and in
my heart for her – there is evidence of a greater love in both of us than what
the human heart alone could offer by itself.
When my thoughts bend not to what is easy for me, but how I could make
things easier for her, I recognize in myself the impossible. It is not of my own origin. It comes from Him, and only flows through me. That kind of change in thinking is stunning
to me. It is unnatural to my carnal
nature, and teaches me that I need not be slave to my carnal nature. That through submission to Jesus there is
much more love to see and experience than I have even tasted as yet. It is impossible but only the beginning of
impossible.
But then I realize my walk has only begun and my path is
much longer than I first thought it might be.
Luke continues with Jesus speaking in verse 32 saying … “For if ye love
them which love you, what thank have ye? for sinners also love those that love
them. [verse 33] And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank
have ye? for sinners also do even the same. [verse 34] And if ye lend to them
of whom ye hope to receive, what thank have ye? for sinners also lend to
sinners, to receive as much again.” I am
a sinner. For all of the love I describe
is nothing more than any ordinary sinner might experience. My expectations for love have not exceeded
what any ordinary sinner might expect. I
am called to something more. Something
impossible. It is not just me, it is
every person who dares to follow Jesus Christ.
We are all collectively called to something more, something
greater. A greater impossible love, that
can still flow through us all. That
redemptive love will change our thoughts, how we think. It will also change how we love, and as I
have repeated often, who we love. We are
to love others not at the exclusion of our families, but in addition to that
love. We are to love others at the
exclusion of loving self. It is
self-love at the root of every evil.
Jesus would have us love like God loves.
Jesus concludes this snippet from His sermon picking up in
verse 35 saying … “But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for
nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of
the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil. [verse 36] Be
ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful.” This is the kind of impossible love God has
for me, and for each of us. God loves us
even though we sometimes call ourselves His enemies with good reason. Yet He is kind to us no matter how badly we
treat Him. He forgives us, no matter how
many times we require Him to do so. He
continues to love us in spite of what we do and say. His love is persistent. His love is infectious. His love brings us life and life more
abundantly. I confess it is hard for me
to love Donald Trump, or Bill Clinton, or any of the enemies of our country
that terrorism has spawned. I just don’t
think much about our presidents until they enact something I do not like. And our enemies tend to go on the hate
posters in my heart. But Jesus asked the
impossible of my heart. And if He asked
it. He must have a way to offer it. So I will submit and see where He will lead
in this regard. It may be impossible for
me. But I am NOT the one in charge, and
what is impossible for me is child’s play for Jesus. God just has that kind of impossible love and
He longs to place it in me and you.